Dating Advice

Brighten Someone's Day

By Kara Oh

One of the most meaningful things you can say to someone is to offer a compliment. A compliment about their appearance, something they've done, or created can make a person's day. What you get back is usually a smile, sometimes a conversation and an assumption made by the receiver that you are a caring person. Not bad for such a small effort.

Complimenting people shows you're aware of others and care about them. If you never compliment anyone it could mean many things: you may have grown up in a household where compliments were not offered; you may be insensitive; you may be too wrapped up in your own thoughts to notice others; or you may not care about others. If you never offer a compliment, look at the quality of your relationships. It would be safe to guess that you're not happy with them.

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Men rarely get compliments about their personal selves. If they get any at all, they're about their outward accomplishments. Women get compliments about their appearance, their clothes, new hair style, their smile, their eyes, etc., from both men and women. Men rarely do. Ladies, give your man or the men you work and interact with sincere compliments once in a while. Watch their faces light up.

Men, the easiest way to tell a woman you care, or to get noticed and remembered, is to give a woman a sincere compliment, especially if it's about something she probably doesn't get much attention for. Attention Women: Receive compliments graciously. When you discount a compliment it makes the other person feel awful. It makes you look bad and eventually, you won't get any more.

Kara Oh is the best-selling author of numerous relationship books including Men Made Easy, Marriage Made Easy, and Women Made Easy.

Kara has been interviewed on hundreds of radio and TV shows across the country in cities like New York, Atlanta, Las Vegas, Chicago, and Philadelphia, and signed books in bookstores in every major (and a few not so major) city. She has featured in magazines like Cosmopolitan and Women's World. She is an enlightening and entertaining public speaker and has traveled to all the major US cities sharing her insights about what makes men tick and how to create amazing relationships.