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Dealing with a Breakup

  • Posted on March 31, 2010 at 3:43 pm

Breakups are hard to deal with.

But do not despair. Today, I want to share a few tips for dealing with a breakup. Plus, I want to share an amazing tip from my buddy that will immediately help you feel better.

The most important thing to do after a breakup is to rediscover who you are and to love yourself. You had a good life before you met that special someone and you can have a good life again.

Many people make the mistake of jumping right back into the dating pool after a breakup. But if you are not happy with yourself, then you aren’t ready to start offering yourself in a relationship.

Get to know what makes you so special. What makes you attractive — and don’t tell me that you aren’t attractive. That is a big lie! After all, if you weren’t attractive then you wouldn’t have ever gotten into a relationship in the first place.

Do you have a good sense of humor?

Are you smart?

Do you have interesting life experiences?

Are you a loyal person?

Are you gentle?

Are you strong?

Are you kind?

Do you have a unique talent or skill?

Do you enjoy learning new things?

. . . Any one of these and many other qualities make you an attractive person.

Rediscover an old hobby or start up a new hobby. What gets you excited? You are rediscovering who you are. You are an amazing person and spending time with yourself can be a great experience. Once you know how fun it is to spend time with yourself, you will feel better about being by yourself. Also, once you rediscover what a great person you are you will be ready to attract great people who will want to hang out with you. One of these people might turn into something more. . .

Speaking of other people, you have friends and family right? Don’t just spend time by yourself. How did you spend your time before you were in the relationship that took a turn for the worse? You want to get back into that routine or start a new routine.

Go bowling with a friend. Take your parents out to dinner. Go do something for old-time’s sake.

So, for quick healing, return to the routine of your pre-relationship days, have fun with friends and family, and re-discover who you are by exploring your interests in a hobby or something else that you enjoy doing.

Now, my friend T.W. Jackson has seen many breakups because he offers help to people who have been through a breakup. In fact, he has even helped some people restore their relationships with their exes. You might want to check out his website if you feel that you should try to get back with your ex.

But regardless, I think you will find this de-stressing technique to be quite helpful. You will experience instant results and you can do it right now in front of your computer while watching this video.

How to Keep Your Relationship Fresh With Romance

  • Posted on March 20, 2010 at 6:27 pm

Simply stated, romance is showing the one you love that you truly appreciate and value them.

Here are some ways to kick the romance volume up a notch:

Gifts

The worst thing you can do is forget a birthday, anniversary, holiday, or some other special occasion. These are timeslots built into the calendar year to help you show your love and appreciation for your honey.

The minimum requirement is to remember and give a gift and / or do something special together. You can either meet the minimum requirement, or show extra thoughtfulness and effort to make the occasion extra special.

Surprises

Surprises are one of the easiest ways to be romantic. All you have to do is treat the day as if it were a birthday or Valentine’s day without being prompted by the calendar. Give a gift or handwritten letter of appreciation “just because I wanted you to know how much I love you.” Keep his or her interests in mind and surprise him or her with tickets to a concert or musical. Be spontaneous. Make a special effort to express your love even when your calendar doesn’t tell you to.

Affection

Walk up to her and kiss her or hug her. Sweep her off her feet.

Show him how much you love him with a hug and kisses. Give him a massage.

Combine your affection with the element of surprise.

Affirmation

Affirmation is like affection except that affection is shown while affirmation is said. When employing affirmation for a romantic moment, tell the person with words how much they mean to you.

Write a love letter telling her what you appreciate about her.

When he needs encouraging, encourage him.

When one of you achieves a goal, celebrate together.

Remind one another that your lives are complete and happy because you are together.


Tim Spooner is the author of The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage

Tips For Getting And Keeping The Body Women Love

  • Posted on March 18, 2010 at 3:20 pm

Tips For Getting And Keeping The Body Women Love

By Meet Your Sweet

FACT: your BODY is an ESSENTIAL part of being attractive to women.

There are no ifs, ands, or buts about this matter. There’s no getting around to maintaining a great body that’ll keep women interested in you.

But before you start panicking, let me just say that it’s NOT what you think.

Maybe you’re already spiraling into a heap of self-pity at the thought of perfectly sculpted male models flaunting their brawn in magazines. Perhaps seeing those flawless celebrities on TV with screaming women in the background will lead you to think that you can’t possibly measure up to them.

Perhaps you want to scream, “Crikey, hot women will ONLY go for men like THOSE…how could *I* ever hope to date chicks of that caliber?!”

Well my friend, I want you to gather all those pre-conceived notions you have about physical looks and take a sledgehammer to them.

It’s all part of reprogramming your ideas about seduction and attraction, which begins with Meet Your Sweet’s groundbreaking book for men:

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Got it? OK…

So: if you believe that you have to look like those guys in order to be outrageously attractive, you’re dead wrong. Look at the world around you and you’ll know I’m right.

Take a stroll around the shopping mall, a park or any other populated area. You’ll find average-looking guys who DON’T look like an actor are holding hands with the hottest babes in the vicinity.

I’m talking about the men who make you think “HOW in the hell did she end up with HIM?”

Are you going to tell me that those men are just a fluke? Are you going to deny the fact that they simply know something that you DON’T?

Take the shutters off your eyes and realize that you too can pull this off! If a regular guy (on the outside at least) can date beautiful women, you can surely do the SAME.

The good news is that your less-than-perfect body is VERY much capable of attracting hordes of gorgeous women.

Even rock stars who dress like they crawled out of a dumpster are able to draw women like moths to a flame. Well, maybe they’re a freak exception because of the baked-in charm that comes with being in a band.

Those guys live on another plane of reality, so the non-rock star demographic can still score big with the beautiful and brainy ladies.

First of all, you need to wrap your mind around this basic truth: the ability to attract women NEVER comes from an outside factor. It’s already within you, and all you need is to get accustomed to using these inner traits.

Thus, you need to STOP comparing yourself to other men. Doing so is the path to madness.

OF COURSE there’s going to be someone who’s thinner, brawnier, richer, taller, or stronger than you.

BUT does that have anything to do with your own attractiveness? Does the existence of “better” men statistically reduce your chances to have a sizeable piece of the action?

That’s a big “N” to the “O”. There are literally millions of women out there, and at least a handful of them will find you attractive.

Yes, YOU. They can AND will see you in an attractive light if you unlearn whatever standards of physical beauty you’ve been made to believe in.

Don’t fret about losing ALL the good women to other guys; there’s plenty enough to go around for everyone.

The problem with us guys is that we’re primarily into the visual aspect of attraction when it comes to selecting a partner. Before a man finds a girl attractive, she’s gonna have to fit into his particular set of criteria.

This is why some men automatically ASSUME that women think the same way.

REALITY CHECK: NOT all women need their man to have impossibly good looks to feel attracted to them.

Look, I’m not saying that better-looking guys don’t have an advantage. But what I am saying is that YOU don’t need those things to attract women yourself.

And I’m not trying to contradict myself by saying that looks ARE important. It’s just that it’s not important in the way you might THINK it is.

Let me re-frame your concept of looking good. Physical attributes matter in a “I-look-after-myself-and-care-about-being-a-clean-presentable-man-who-is-serious–about-meeting-women” kind of way.

In other words, it’s more of showing everyone that you have the HABIT of looking the very best you can.

Even a naturally handsome guy would horribly lower his chances if he let himself go. You know: not taking a shower, not shaving, letting his fingernails grow disgustingly long, and so on.

Basically, you’re gonna have to be at your physical best, regardless of the mug you were born with. NO ONE is exempt from this – well, at least those who want to meet and date women.

Let’s get the matter of fitness out of the way. Even guys who are overweight can get beautiful women, but you’ll have an easier time if you have a relatively proportional body.

Besides, ANY guy will stand to benefit from working out on a regular basis. But it doesn’t have to be like the inhumanly merciless exercise program that the cast from “300” had to go through.

You don’t need a six pack, nor are you going to war with the Persian army.

All you need to do is come up with a reasonable schedule (like 2-3 times weekly) for cardiovascular activity. Don’t let the age-old “I don’t have time” excuse get in the way.

Even if you weren’t trying to attract women, working out regularly has been clinically proven to greatly reduce the risk of getting all those life-threatening problems you always hear about.

Not to sound preachy, but if you’re not going to do it for the ladies, at least do it for your own well-being. Any guy who stuck to a fixed workout schedule is bound to lose a few pounds at the very least!

Just as a warning, don’t try one of those fancy-schmancy diets you might have heard about. It’s not a good idea to shock your system by radically changing your eating habits.

You’re better off consulting with a licensed dietician, nutritionist or physician for sound and realistic advice on eating healthy. You could probably stick to working out, but improving your diet (read: not starving yourself) is going to give you quicker results.

Ok, now we move on to DETAILS. Women love a guy who pays attention to details, so I’ll give you a quick walkthough on this matter.

Let’s talk about HAIR. Get a reputable stylist to sit you down and figure out which style TRULY matches your facial features and the general shape of your head.

For instance, guys who are balding should just go all the way and shave their thinning dome. Don’t let errant, lingering, hairs dampen your sex appeal (think about Bill Murray’s character from the movie “Kingpin”!).

Beards and other forms of facial hair are fine as long as they’re trimmed and properly kept under control. Unless you’re only interested in fans of “Lord of The Rings”, don’t think that sporting a Gandalf beard is going to improve your chances.

The same goes for hair from the chest downwards. Modern technology has made it easier for guys to trim these areas, so invest in an electric razor or any other method that will help you in this regard.

Would you want your date to neglect her nether regions as well? Didn’t think so. Be a pal and return the favor.

Additionally, watch out for any stay hairs coming out of your ears or nostrils. Clippers and tweezers don’t cost much, so pick one and get to work.

Your finger and toenails need to be short and free of any grime underneath. If you have the budget for it, go to a men’s salon because they often include a foot scrubbing service along with the package. Otherwise, a pair of clippers isn’t going to break the bank.

Crooked or yellowish teeth need to be treated as well. Check with a specialist on which option will work for your budget. There are plenty of options out there, such as kits you can use at home, or setting an appointment with a qualified dentist.

Trust me, a polished smile is eye candy to women and they’ll definitely NOTICE it. So make the effort to do something about this matter.

Clothes are a bit of a tricky subject because everyone has different ideas about fashion. On a basic level however, your appearance must tell women that you took the time to look good by choosing threads that work best on your frame.

(Again, NOT about physical perfection…)

Generally, clothes with holes and torn seams are a no-no. Shirts and pants that are old and worn out give the impression that you’re immature and don’t care about looking nice for the ladies.

When it comes to picking out stuff that’ll look good on you, ask your friends and sales staff to help you make a decision. Sometimes it takes another pair of eyes to REALLY figure out the exact kind of clothes that suit your specific body type.

While your socks, shoes, belts, and wallet need to look crisp and neat (no scuffs or other battle damage please), they don’t exactly have to cost you a pretty penny outright.

Plenty of quality stuff is on sale in most shopping malls, so start looking there. There’s always a good bargain to be found if you take the time to look!

Lastly, don’t overstuff your pocket. Try not to put anything in there except for your wallet, cellphone and car keys. The less bulkier your pockets are, the sharper you look.

And that about does it. Remember, setting aside enough time for these things will benefit you greatly because it will manifest in how you look.

Women will see AND appreciate the effort you’ve gone through. If we’re defined by what we do repeatedly, then imagine what a habit of good style and grooming can do for you.

They don’t even have to say it – you’ll find that they’ll naturally be more open to chatting with you and you’ll have an easier time approaching them.

Furthermore, knowing that you’re at your best will greatly BOOST your self-confidence.

I mean, wouldn’t you feel more RELAXED and LESS ANXIOUS because you’re aware of how well-put together you are?

In case anyone hasn’t told you, it’s this exact kind of attitude that makes you more eye-catching to women.

Neglecting your looks will make you tense and even apologetic for the very space you’re occupying. That’s not a very attractive vibe to give off, now is it?

If you really want to seal the deal however, might I recommend an excellent book to bring out your seduction skills and self-confidence to the fullest:

Fireworks with Females

This empowering guide is a must-have for any guy who wants to be THE MAN when it comes to dating. The cool thing about it is that it’ll also improve the other areas in your life.

After all, having a confident personality will help you succeed in ALL of your pursuits, whether it’s your career or a relationship.

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10 Ways To Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship

  • Posted on July 26, 2009 at 11:52 pm

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had?

You’re not alone. Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also cause the loss of the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:

1. Send them a unique gift at work – Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner’s workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. Become kids again – If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.

3. Fun with water – On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

4. A massage with a twist – Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)

5. Bring back childhood memories – Contact your partner’s family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted. You can do this for your man too.

6. Stare at the clouds – Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.

7. Go for a walk on the beach – Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.

8. Organize a backyard picnic on a warm summer’s night –

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

9. Show you’re grateful for your partner –

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”

10. Spice up your lovemaking – Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.

Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.


Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

You Can Be More Alluring

  • Posted on July 23, 2009 at 5:22 pm

To research my book, Men Made Easy, I immersed myself in the study of men. (And was that ever fun!) I interviewed hundreds of men and a standard question was, “What are the most attractive qualities in a woman.” After laughing and listing their favorite body parts, I clarified my question. “What are the qualities you find most attractive in the woman with whom you fall in love, the woman with whom you wish to make a life?” Being alluring isn’t special tricks or techniques. It’s a way of being. Remember how we watched Princess Diana blossom into it? The following “tips” come from my research into the heart, soul, and psyche of men. If you take them to heart and make them yours, you’ll be happier, more attractive…and definitely more alluring. You’ll have what I call ‘Feminine Grace’. How will you know? Because men will treat you differently. And guess what, I guarantee you’re going to like it.

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1) Smile as often as you can.

Men are most attracted to a woman who is happy. A smile is like a big neon sign that tells the world you’re a happy person and probably fun to be around. We’re all attracted to that kind of person. Besides, smiling works those muscles in your face and keeps your face firmer, slowing the aging process. (At least it seems like that would have to be the case.) Plus, every time you smile, it’s kind of like you’ve just given yourself a face lift. Smiling counters gravity. So ladies, lift those faces, work those muscles and smile your heart out. (Hmmm, now isn’t that an interesting turn of words? Smile your heart out, let your heart out so others can see it. Fun, huh?)

2) Laugh frequently.

When you hear someone laughing, doesn’t it make you want to go over there and be with them, to join in the fun? A person who laughs easily is assumed to be happy. When you laugh, you’re relaxed and self-consciousness flies out the door. Attractive means to draw toward you. Everyone wants to be around happy people. Why not be that person that people are attracted to? Plus, laughter creates endorphins, which is good for you immune system, and most likely, keeps you younger. At least you’ll feel younger.

3. Look directly into men’s eyes…with a little smile on your lips.

The other thing men said they were most attracted to was a woman who genuinely likes herself, who’s comfortable with who she, who likes how she looks, and who’s not self-conscious. If you’re self-conscious it’s difficult to look people in the eyes. If you can’t look a man in the eyes you can’t really connect. It’s the primary signal to a man that you’re open to him advancing closer. Without that eye contact, that permission, most men will turn and go somewhere else. (They need to feel they have about a 95% chance of success.) Practice looking at people slightly longer than is comfortable, with a little hint of a smile. Use people who don’t matter so you’re not intimidated. Does it make people notice you more, become more interested in you? It’s amazing how a few seconds of eye contact can make all the difference. They don’t call it a “come-hither” look for nothin.

4. Walk with grace and self-confidence.

It was funny how often men said they were attracted to a woman who had good posture. When you stand straight you’re physically more attractive, you tell the world you’re proud of who you are, comfortable with how you look, and someone said, “It makes your boobs stick out.” That may be all it is, but I think a woman who stands tall is truly beautiful. A woman with bad posture, even a classically beautiful woman, falls short. (pardon the pun :-)

5. Flirt, but keep it subtle.

Men said the only thing that was more scary than approaching a new woman, or moving to the “next level” with her, was the possibility of physical danger. (Isn’t that so cute?) The lingering eye contact and smiling from across the room are part of that subtle flirting. A touch on the arm actually moves things to the next level, letting him know you’re open to him. A woman who’s guarded doesn’t usually touch a man and men know that. Flirting is being friendly, keeping the door open, letting them know we’re not going to embarrass them. But it must be subtle. Part of being alluring is the mystery. If we’re too overt, it becomes crass.

6. Have style, be classy.

An alluring woman is a classy woman. When you pay attention to the little details, then you stand out above the rest. An alluring woman is an exceptional woman. Look around and you’ll see for yourself. Become exceptional by taking those extra steps with your hair, make-up, and clothes. But don’t overdo it, keep it simple. Let your true beauty shine through. When everything is overdone, you can’t see the women beneath all the layers. And men are usually turned off by a woman with too much hair, make-up, jewelry… well, you know, too much.

7. Enjoy your femininity.

Men said they found a woman who obviously enjoys being a woman to be extremely attractive. Even if you’re just going to the post office, if it makes you feel more feminine, put on a little lipstick, blush, and mascara. A quick brush through the hair and you’re ready. Jeans and a T-shirt can be very attractive on a woman who enjoys being a woman. On a woman who doesn’t care, they’re just “guy” clothes, something to cover the body, keep it warm. Oh yes, paint those toenails…red if you dare. Then, instead of boring sneakers, throw on some of those great open-toed slings or sandals that are in all the stores right now. SEXY! You’ll feel it and, trust me, he’ll notice it.

8. Wear sexy lingerie.

It may sound silly, but sexy lingerie affects how you “are.” You’ll feel sexier, more sensual, more womanly, more attractive. Men don’t know what’s going on, but they can sense that you’re different and that difference comes across as alluring. Can you see how subtle all this is? And it’s fun. So, girl, get out there and play with this stuff and notice how differently men respond to you. Let loose, get creative and enjoy…

Joyfully,

Kara Oh


Kara Oh is the best-selling author of numerous relationship books including From Flirting to Forever, Men Made Easy, Marriage Made Easy, and Women Made Easy.

Kara has been interviewed on hundreds of radio and TV shows across the country in cities like New York, Atlanta, Las Vegas, Chicago, and Philadelphia, and signed books in bookstores in every major (and a few not so major) city. She has featured in magazines like Cosmopolitan and Women’s World. She is an enlightening and entertaining public speaker and has traveled to all the major US cities sharing her insights about what makes men tick and how to create amazing relationships.

Boredom level, firstborn, and smile intensity

  • Posted on May 3, 2009 at 1:23 am

According to a the recent CNN report “Hunting for the secrets of a happy marriage” your firstborn, boredom level and smile intensity can all be important indicators of how happy your marriage will be.

None of these by themselves will ruin your marriage but if you are looking for the happiest marriage possible you should read the CNN report so that you are aware of the obstacles.

For help building a happy marriage, I hope you will read The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage: How to Keep That Honeymoon Feeling

Let me know what you think about the newlywed guide and CNN’s report.

101 Romantic Ideas

  • Posted on April 24, 2009 at 1:25 am

We have obtained permission to give you a copy of one of Michael Webb’s many relationship advice books.

This one has something in it for everyone. It contains 101 brilliant ideas for adding romance to your relationship. These ideas will keep your relationship fresh and help your loved one know how much you value them.

Newlywed Relationship Advice

Here are two of the ideas…

Buy a packet of glow in the dark stars and stick the stars on the roof above your bed to spell out a message such as “I Love You” When the lights go down, your message will be revealed!

Want another? When you are in a romantic spot, ask your partner if she would like to dance. Place one earpiece in her ear and one in your own and enjoy your private dance floor.

This technique is particularly effective if the romantic spot you have chosen is somewhere where people would not normally dance, for example, the top of the Empire State building at sunset or on top of a mountain during a camping trip.

These are just TWO romantic ideas you can start using right away. Inside you’ll discover 99 MORE WAYS to express the love for your partner in creative and unique ways.

You’ll also learn…

  • A unique “twist” to buying flowers (idea #3)
  • A creative way to cheer your partner up at work (idea #10)
  • 7 ’seldom used’ words that really touch the heart (idea #14)
  • And many many more…

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The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage

  • Posted on March 25, 2009 at 10:27 pm

Are you in a serious relationship? Recently engaged? Recently married?

We are giving you a book to help you have a happy marriage.

Read and Save this free book to learn how to keep that honeymoon feeling.

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Newlywed Relationship Advice

You will need Ver. 6 or later of Adobe’s PDF Reader (free) to see this book.

This guide reveals how newlyweds can build a truly happy life together.

Discover:

  • The Six Values critical to building an unshakable foundation to your happy marriage
  • Your marriage’s competitors and how to prevent them from overwhelming your marriage
  • How to be truly free and happy together
  • Your romance toolbox
  • How you can be overjoyed together even when things aren’t going your way

5 First Date Mistakes Men Make That End In Heartbreak

  • Posted on March 15, 2009 at 11:47 pm

Let’s face it – you never get a second chance to make a first impression!

That’s why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things that men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman again, and the worst part is they think they’re doing it right!

Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your first date:

Mistake #1: Buying gifts - Bringing chocolate or flowers on a first date isn’t the best idea – especially if you’ve just met the woman! She’s there to get to know YOU. Women are always asking themselves “what does THAT mean?” And in this case it’s, “He bought me flowers because he likes me, but he doesn’t even know anything about me yet! A little suspicious.

Mistake #2: Being Mr. Serious – When in the presence of a potential date, men often become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play around like they do with their friends and they generally take things a little too seriously. Why do men change their behavior around women, often without even realizing they’re doing it? Because they fear losing their only chance with the girl of their dreams, they try and play the safe side, which results in a “Mr. Serious.”

Mistake #3: Conducting an Interview – When men become “Mr. Serious” they often fall into “job interview conversation mode.” Make sure you reserve questions like, “So where do you work?” or “How many brothers and sisters do you have?” for the future, after you’ve already had a lot of fun and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid anything too deep for a long period of time. On a first date, it can make things a little depressing. Talk like you’ve known each other for years (as if you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on fun.

Mistake #4: Being too needy and direct – Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask, “so do you like me?” or constantly change his opinion to seek her approval and make her like him. Big mistake. Ironically, it’s leaning back, staying cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting, mysterious and comfortable with yourself that actually gets a woman’s attention and keeps her interested.

Mistake #5: Going to boring places – If your date finds the night boring, you’re finished. When it comes to having fun on first dates, nothing is more important than what you do. And while dinners and movies are nice, it’s really hard to leave a great impression in these settings. Why? Because they set a very “proper tone” that’s hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless you’re a super funny, intelligent and interesting guy, dinner and movie dates just aren’t the best place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places like mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.

So in essence, while there are many factors to having a successful date, a great date idea really helps you do many of them naturally! Remember, where you take a woman on a first date can be the difference between a great night and a dating disaster! Choose wisely!


Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300 Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways to help leave a great first impression without breaking the bank! To learn more, visit the creative date ideas site

My Ex Called to See How I Was. How Do I Interpret this and What Do I Do Now?

  • Posted on March 15, 2009 at 3:14 pm


 

What Husbands Can't Resist

T.W. Jackson, the author of the downloadable book “The Magic Of Making Up” responds to one of his readers’ questions.