You are currently browsing all posts tagged with 'first date'

Tips For Getting And Keeping The Body Women Love

  • Posted on March 18, 2010 at 3:20 pm

Tips For Getting And Keeping The Body Women Love

By Meet Your Sweet

FACT: your BODY is an ESSENTIAL part of being attractive to women.

There are no ifs, ands, or buts about this matter. There’s no getting around to maintaining a great body that’ll keep women interested in you.

But before you start panicking, let me just say that it’s NOT what you think.

Maybe you’re already spiraling into a heap of self-pity at the thought of perfectly sculpted male models flaunting their brawn in magazines. Perhaps seeing those flawless celebrities on TV with screaming women in the background will lead you to think that you can’t possibly measure up to them.

Perhaps you want to scream, “Crikey, hot women will ONLY go for men like THOSE…how could *I* ever hope to date chicks of that caliber?!”

Well my friend, I want you to gather all those pre-conceived notions you have about physical looks and take a sledgehammer to them.

It’s all part of reprogramming your ideas about seduction and attraction, which begins with Meet Your Sweet’s groundbreaking book for men:

Fireworks with Females

Got it? OK…

So: if you believe that you have to look like those guys in order to be outrageously attractive, you’re dead wrong. Look at the world around you and you’ll know I’m right.

Take a stroll around the shopping mall, a park or any other populated area. You’ll find average-looking guys who DON’T look like an actor are holding hands with the hottest babes in the vicinity.

I’m talking about the men who make you think “HOW in the hell did she end up with HIM?”

Are you going to tell me that those men are just a fluke? Are you going to deny the fact that they simply know something that you DON’T?

Take the shutters off your eyes and realize that you too can pull this off! If a regular guy (on the outside at least) can date beautiful women, you can surely do the SAME.

The good news is that your less-than-perfect body is VERY much capable of attracting hordes of gorgeous women.

Even rock stars who dress like they crawled out of a dumpster are able to draw women like moths to a flame. Well, maybe they’re a freak exception because of the baked-in charm that comes with being in a band.

Those guys live on another plane of reality, so the non-rock star demographic can still score big with the beautiful and brainy ladies.

First of all, you need to wrap your mind around this basic truth: the ability to attract women NEVER comes from an outside factor. It’s already within you, and all you need is to get accustomed to using these inner traits.

Thus, you need to STOP comparing yourself to other men. Doing so is the path to madness.

OF COURSE there’s going to be someone who’s thinner, brawnier, richer, taller, or stronger than you.

BUT does that have anything to do with your own attractiveness? Does the existence of “better” men statistically reduce your chances to have a sizeable piece of the action?

That’s a big “N” to the “O”. There are literally millions of women out there, and at least a handful of them will find you attractive.

Yes, YOU. They can AND will see you in an attractive light if you unlearn whatever standards of physical beauty you’ve been made to believe in.

Don’t fret about losing ALL the good women to other guys; there’s plenty enough to go around for everyone.

The problem with us guys is that we’re primarily into the visual aspect of attraction when it comes to selecting a partner. Before a man finds a girl attractive, she’s gonna have to fit into his particular set of criteria.

This is why some men automatically ASSUME that women think the same way.

REALITY CHECK: NOT all women need their man to have impossibly good looks to feel attracted to them.

Look, I’m not saying that better-looking guys don’t have an advantage. But what I am saying is that YOU don’t need those things to attract women yourself.

And I’m not trying to contradict myself by saying that looks ARE important. It’s just that it’s not important in the way you might THINK it is.

Let me re-frame your concept of looking good. Physical attributes matter in a “I-look-after-myself-and-care-about-being-a-clean-presentable-man-who-is-serious–about-meeting-women” kind of way.

In other words, it’s more of showing everyone that you have the HABIT of looking the very best you can.

Even a naturally handsome guy would horribly lower his chances if he let himself go. You know: not taking a shower, not shaving, letting his fingernails grow disgustingly long, and so on.

Basically, you’re gonna have to be at your physical best, regardless of the mug you were born with. NO ONE is exempt from this – well, at least those who want to meet and date women.

Let’s get the matter of fitness out of the way. Even guys who are overweight can get beautiful women, but you’ll have an easier time if you have a relatively proportional body.

Besides, ANY guy will stand to benefit from working out on a regular basis. But it doesn’t have to be like the inhumanly merciless exercise program that the cast from “300” had to go through.

You don’t need a six pack, nor are you going to war with the Persian army.

All you need to do is come up with a reasonable schedule (like 2-3 times weekly) for cardiovascular activity. Don’t let the age-old “I don’t have time” excuse get in the way.

Even if you weren’t trying to attract women, working out regularly has been clinically proven to greatly reduce the risk of getting all those life-threatening problems you always hear about.

Not to sound preachy, but if you’re not going to do it for the ladies, at least do it for your own well-being. Any guy who stuck to a fixed workout schedule is bound to lose a few pounds at the very least!

Just as a warning, don’t try one of those fancy-schmancy diets you might have heard about. It’s not a good idea to shock your system by radically changing your eating habits.

You’re better off consulting with a licensed dietician, nutritionist or physician for sound and realistic advice on eating healthy. You could probably stick to working out, but improving your diet (read: not starving yourself) is going to give you quicker results.

Ok, now we move on to DETAILS. Women love a guy who pays attention to details, so I’ll give you a quick walkthough on this matter.

Let’s talk about HAIR. Get a reputable stylist to sit you down and figure out which style TRULY matches your facial features and the general shape of your head.

For instance, guys who are balding should just go all the way and shave their thinning dome. Don’t let errant, lingering, hairs dampen your sex appeal (think about Bill Murray’s character from the movie “Kingpin”!).

Beards and other forms of facial hair are fine as long as they’re trimmed and properly kept under control. Unless you’re only interested in fans of “Lord of The Rings”, don’t think that sporting a Gandalf beard is going to improve your chances.

The same goes for hair from the chest downwards. Modern technology has made it easier for guys to trim these areas, so invest in an electric razor or any other method that will help you in this regard.

Would you want your date to neglect her nether regions as well? Didn’t think so. Be a pal and return the favor.

Additionally, watch out for any stay hairs coming out of your ears or nostrils. Clippers and tweezers don’t cost much, so pick one and get to work.

Your finger and toenails need to be short and free of any grime underneath. If you have the budget for it, go to a men’s salon because they often include a foot scrubbing service along with the package. Otherwise, a pair of clippers isn’t going to break the bank.

Crooked or yellowish teeth need to be treated as well. Check with a specialist on which option will work for your budget. There are plenty of options out there, such as kits you can use at home, or setting an appointment with a qualified dentist.

Trust me, a polished smile is eye candy to women and they’ll definitely NOTICE it. So make the effort to do something about this matter.

Clothes are a bit of a tricky subject because everyone has different ideas about fashion. On a basic level however, your appearance must tell women that you took the time to look good by choosing threads that work best on your frame.

(Again, NOT about physical perfection…)

Generally, clothes with holes and torn seams are a no-no. Shirts and pants that are old and worn out give the impression that you’re immature and don’t care about looking nice for the ladies.

When it comes to picking out stuff that’ll look good on you, ask your friends and sales staff to help you make a decision. Sometimes it takes another pair of eyes to REALLY figure out the exact kind of clothes that suit your specific body type.

While your socks, shoes, belts, and wallet need to look crisp and neat (no scuffs or other battle damage please), they don’t exactly have to cost you a pretty penny outright.

Plenty of quality stuff is on sale in most shopping malls, so start looking there. There’s always a good bargain to be found if you take the time to look!

Lastly, don’t overstuff your pocket. Try not to put anything in there except for your wallet, cellphone and car keys. The less bulkier your pockets are, the sharper you look.

And that about does it. Remember, setting aside enough time for these things will benefit you greatly because it will manifest in how you look.

Women will see AND appreciate the effort you’ve gone through. If we’re defined by what we do repeatedly, then imagine what a habit of good style and grooming can do for you.

They don’t even have to say it – you’ll find that they’ll naturally be more open to chatting with you and you’ll have an easier time approaching them.

Furthermore, knowing that you’re at your best will greatly BOOST your self-confidence.

I mean, wouldn’t you feel more RELAXED and LESS ANXIOUS because you’re aware of how well-put together you are?

In case anyone hasn’t told you, it’s this exact kind of attitude that makes you more eye-catching to women.

Neglecting your looks will make you tense and even apologetic for the very space you’re occupying. That’s not a very attractive vibe to give off, now is it?

If you really want to seal the deal however, might I recommend an excellent book to bring out your seduction skills and self-confidence to the fullest:

Fireworks with Females

This empowering guide is a must-have for any guy who wants to be THE MAN when it comes to dating. The cool thing about it is that it’ll also improve the other areas in your life.

After all, having a confident personality will help you succeed in ALL of your pursuits, whether it’s your career or a relationship.

—————————————————————————

If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet’s “Fireworks With Females,” your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.

If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.

Fireworks with Females

No games. No scripted lines. Real life dating advice for real men!

5 First Date Mistakes Men Make That End In Heartbreak

  • Posted on March 15, 2009 at 11:47 pm

Let’s face it – you never get a second chance to make a first impression!

That’s why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things that men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman again, and the worst part is they think they’re doing it right!

Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your first date:

Mistake #1: Buying gifts - Bringing chocolate or flowers on a first date isn’t the best idea – especially if you’ve just met the woman! She’s there to get to know YOU. Women are always asking themselves “what does THAT mean?” And in this case it’s, “He bought me flowers because he likes me, but he doesn’t even know anything about me yet! A little suspicious.

Mistake #2: Being Mr. Serious – When in the presence of a potential date, men often become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play around like they do with their friends and they generally take things a little too seriously. Why do men change their behavior around women, often without even realizing they’re doing it? Because they fear losing their only chance with the girl of their dreams, they try and play the safe side, which results in a “Mr. Serious.”

Mistake #3: Conducting an Interview – When men become “Mr. Serious” they often fall into “job interview conversation mode.” Make sure you reserve questions like, “So where do you work?” or “How many brothers and sisters do you have?” for the future, after you’ve already had a lot of fun and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid anything too deep for a long period of time. On a first date, it can make things a little depressing. Talk like you’ve known each other for years (as if you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on fun.

Mistake #4: Being too needy and direct – Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask, “so do you like me?” or constantly change his opinion to seek her approval and make her like him. Big mistake. Ironically, it’s leaning back, staying cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting, mysterious and comfortable with yourself that actually gets a woman’s attention and keeps her interested.

Mistake #5: Going to boring places – If your date finds the night boring, you’re finished. When it comes to having fun on first dates, nothing is more important than what you do. And while dinners and movies are nice, it’s really hard to leave a great impression in these settings. Why? Because they set a very “proper tone” that’s hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless you’re a super funny, intelligent and interesting guy, dinner and movie dates just aren’t the best place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places like mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.

So in essence, while there are many factors to having a successful date, a great date idea really helps you do many of them naturally! Remember, where you take a woman on a first date can be the difference between a great night and a dating disaster! Choose wisely!


Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300 Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways to help leave a great first impression without breaking the bank! To learn more, visit the creative date ideas site

Dating Advice for Women

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 8:03 pm

There is a big difference when it comes to men and women and their dating styles. In general, men are more willing than women to put themselves on the line to make the first move. Conversely, women are willing to risk never seeing someone again by not making a move. Men are generally more open to sacrificing themselves on the first date than women are. But, once they are in a relationship, the roles change. Women are then the ones who are willing to put more on the line.

Risk Nothing – Wait Forever

If you are a woman who has become frustrated with the dating scene, it may be because you are unwilling to risk yourself and show your interest. Why wait for him to initiate a conversation? Many women want the man to do the asking out, but he won’t know you are interested unless you give him the right signals or involve him in conversation. Men like to have a good idea that they will be successful if they do ask a woman out, and you can give him that idea by walking over to him and starting a conversation.

Of course, if you do opt to make contact first, you have to be prepared to be rejected. Not all men you speak with will ask for your phone number, or ask you out. But nobody bats a thousand, and it’s inevitable that a little bit of rejection will come into all of our lives at some point. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be all bad. You can use the rejections you get to hone your intuition. Maybe the next time you have an encounter with a man, you will be better able to judge how he feels about you in return.

Still not sure about taking a risk and letting a man know you are interested? Perhaps you want to understand how it is that men can so easily make the first move and open themselves up on the first date. Check out the book Men Made Easy by Kara Oh to gain a deeper understanding into men, romance and love. This book contains life-changing and easy-to-use tips and secrets that will help you develop the confidence and ability to take a chance on love.

Kara Oh


Kara Oh is the best-selling author of numerous relationship books including Men Made Easy, Marriage Made Easy, and Women Made Easy.

Kara has been interviewed on hundreds of radio and TV shows across the country in cities like New York, Atlanta, Las Vegas, Chicago, and Philadelphia, and signed books in bookstores in every major (and a few not so major) city. She has featured in magazines like Cosmopolitan and Women’s World. She is an enlightening and entertaining public speaker and has traveled to all the major US cities sharing her insights about what makes men tick and how to create amazing relationships.