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Dealing with a Breakup

  • Posted on March 31, 2010 at 3:43 pm

Breakups are hard to deal with.

But do not despair. Today, I want to share a few tips for dealing with a breakup. Plus, I want to share an amazing tip from my buddy that will immediately help you feel better.

The most important thing to do after a breakup is to rediscover who you are and to love yourself. You had a good life before you met that special someone and you can have a good life again.

Many people make the mistake of jumping right back into the dating pool after a breakup. But if you are not happy with yourself, then you aren’t ready to start offering yourself in a relationship.

Get to know what makes you so special. What makes you attractive — and don’t tell me that you aren’t attractive. That is a big lie! After all, if you weren’t attractive then you wouldn’t have ever gotten into a relationship in the first place.

Do you have a good sense of humor?

Are you smart?

Do you have interesting life experiences?

Are you a loyal person?

Are you gentle?

Are you strong?

Are you kind?

Do you have a unique talent or skill?

Do you enjoy learning new things?

. . . Any one of these and many other qualities make you an attractive person.

Rediscover an old hobby or start up a new hobby. What gets you excited? You are rediscovering who you are. You are an amazing person and spending time with yourself can be a great experience. Once you know how fun it is to spend time with yourself, you will feel better about being by yourself. Also, once you rediscover what a great person you are you will be ready to attract great people who will want to hang out with you. One of these people might turn into something more. . .

Speaking of other people, you have friends and family right? Don’t just spend time by yourself. How did you spend your time before you were in the relationship that took a turn for the worse? You want to get back into that routine or start a new routine.

Go bowling with a friend. Take your parents out to dinner. Go do something for old-time’s sake.

So, for quick healing, return to the routine of your pre-relationship days, have fun with friends and family, and re-discover who you are by exploring your interests in a hobby or something else that you enjoy doing.

Now, my friend T.W. Jackson has seen many breakups because he offers help to people who have been through a breakup. In fact, he has even helped some people restore their relationships with their exes. You might want to check out his website if you feel that you should try to get back with your ex.

But regardless, I think you will find this de-stressing technique to be quite helpful. You will experience instant results and you can do it right now in front of your computer while watching this video.

My Ex Called to See How I Was. How Do I Interpret this and What Do I Do Now?

  • Posted on March 15, 2009 at 3:14 pm


 

What Husbands Can't Resist

T.W. Jackson, the author of the downloadable book “The Magic Of Making Up” responds to one of his readers’ questions.

Does My Ex Want To Get Back With Me? (How To Tell…)

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:17 pm

If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you, then it’s okay to be a little hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun. Are you asking yourself “does my ex want to get back with me”?

What Husbands Can't Resist

These are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in getting you back. But even if you want to get back with your ex, you should not simply jump into things. The best way to play things is to play hard to get (in moderation), which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again. In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, then the odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place.

Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what, because of how many memories were shared together during this period of time. But there are other emotions that come into play including past regrets. If you are wondering “does my ex want to get back with me” the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.

Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong. This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.

This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering “does my ex want to get back with me?”, but the truth is, it’s better to get a feel for the situation before you act. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.

Rooting For You,
T.W. Jackson
Author of “The Magic Of Making Up”

 

Saving Marriages With Unconditional Love

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:08 pm

In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.

A number of people in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, diamond jewellery or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these people, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain.

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What Husbands Can't Resist

When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love.

So what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.

So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.

But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.

Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.

Amy Waterman, M. A. is the author of  Save My Marriage Today .

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