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Tips For Getting And Keeping The Body Women Love

  • Posted on March 18, 2010 at 3:20 pm

Tips For Getting And Keeping The Body Women Love

By Meet Your Sweet

FACT: your BODY is an ESSENTIAL part of being attractive to women.

There are no ifs, ands, or buts about this matter. There’s no getting around to maintaining a great body that’ll keep women interested in you.

But before you start panicking, let me just say that it’s NOT what you think.

Maybe you’re already spiraling into a heap of self-pity at the thought of perfectly sculpted male models flaunting their brawn in magazines. Perhaps seeing those flawless celebrities on TV with screaming women in the background will lead you to think that you can’t possibly measure up to them.

Perhaps you want to scream, “Crikey, hot women will ONLY go for men like THOSE…how could *I* ever hope to date chicks of that caliber?!”

Well my friend, I want you to gather all those pre-conceived notions you have about physical looks and take a sledgehammer to them.

It’s all part of reprogramming your ideas about seduction and attraction, which begins with Meet Your Sweet’s groundbreaking book for men:

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Got it? OK…

So: if you believe that you have to look like those guys in order to be outrageously attractive, you’re dead wrong. Look at the world around you and you’ll know I’m right.

Take a stroll around the shopping mall, a park or any other populated area. You’ll find average-looking guys who DON’T look like an actor are holding hands with the hottest babes in the vicinity.

I’m talking about the men who make you think “HOW in the hell did she end up with HIM?”

Are you going to tell me that those men are just a fluke? Are you going to deny the fact that they simply know something that you DON’T?

Take the shutters off your eyes and realize that you too can pull this off! If a regular guy (on the outside at least) can date beautiful women, you can surely do the SAME.

The good news is that your less-than-perfect body is VERY much capable of attracting hordes of gorgeous women.

Even rock stars who dress like they crawled out of a dumpster are able to draw women like moths to a flame. Well, maybe they’re a freak exception because of the baked-in charm that comes with being in a band.

Those guys live on another plane of reality, so the non-rock star demographic can still score big with the beautiful and brainy ladies.

First of all, you need to wrap your mind around this basic truth: the ability to attract women NEVER comes from an outside factor. It’s already within you, and all you need is to get accustomed to using these inner traits.

Thus, you need to STOP comparing yourself to other men. Doing so is the path to madness.

OF COURSE there’s going to be someone who’s thinner, brawnier, richer, taller, or stronger than you.

BUT does that have anything to do with your own attractiveness? Does the existence of “better” men statistically reduce your chances to have a sizeable piece of the action?

That’s a big “N” to the “O”. There are literally millions of women out there, and at least a handful of them will find you attractive.

Yes, YOU. They can AND will see you in an attractive light if you unlearn whatever standards of physical beauty you’ve been made to believe in.

Don’t fret about losing ALL the good women to other guys; there’s plenty enough to go around for everyone.

The problem with us guys is that we’re primarily into the visual aspect of attraction when it comes to selecting a partner. Before a man finds a girl attractive, she’s gonna have to fit into his particular set of criteria.

This is why some men automatically ASSUME that women think the same way.

REALITY CHECK: NOT all women need their man to have impossibly good looks to feel attracted to them.

Look, I’m not saying that better-looking guys don’t have an advantage. But what I am saying is that YOU don’t need those things to attract women yourself.

And I’m not trying to contradict myself by saying that looks ARE important. It’s just that it’s not important in the way you might THINK it is.

Let me re-frame your concept of looking good. Physical attributes matter in a “I-look-after-myself-and-care-about-being-a-clean-presentable-man-who-is-serious–about-meeting-women” kind of way.

In other words, it’s more of showing everyone that you have the HABIT of looking the very best you can.

Even a naturally handsome guy would horribly lower his chances if he let himself go. You know: not taking a shower, not shaving, letting his fingernails grow disgustingly long, and so on.

Basically, you’re gonna have to be at your physical best, regardless of the mug you were born with. NO ONE is exempt from this – well, at least those who want to meet and date women.

Let’s get the matter of fitness out of the way. Even guys who are overweight can get beautiful women, but you’ll have an easier time if you have a relatively proportional body.

Besides, ANY guy will stand to benefit from working out on a regular basis. But it doesn’t have to be like the inhumanly merciless exercise program that the cast from “300” had to go through.

You don’t need a six pack, nor are you going to war with the Persian army.

All you need to do is come up with a reasonable schedule (like 2-3 times weekly) for cardiovascular activity. Don’t let the age-old “I don’t have time” excuse get in the way.

Even if you weren’t trying to attract women, working out regularly has been clinically proven to greatly reduce the risk of getting all those life-threatening problems you always hear about.

Not to sound preachy, but if you’re not going to do it for the ladies, at least do it for your own well-being. Any guy who stuck to a fixed workout schedule is bound to lose a few pounds at the very least!

Just as a warning, don’t try one of those fancy-schmancy diets you might have heard about. It’s not a good idea to shock your system by radically changing your eating habits.

You’re better off consulting with a licensed dietician, nutritionist or physician for sound and realistic advice on eating healthy. You could probably stick to working out, but improving your diet (read: not starving yourself) is going to give you quicker results.

Ok, now we move on to DETAILS. Women love a guy who pays attention to details, so I’ll give you a quick walkthough on this matter.

Let’s talk about HAIR. Get a reputable stylist to sit you down and figure out which style TRULY matches your facial features and the general shape of your head.

For instance, guys who are balding should just go all the way and shave their thinning dome. Don’t let errant, lingering, hairs dampen your sex appeal (think about Bill Murray’s character from the movie “Kingpin”!).

Beards and other forms of facial hair are fine as long as they’re trimmed and properly kept under control. Unless you’re only interested in fans of “Lord of The Rings”, don’t think that sporting a Gandalf beard is going to improve your chances.

The same goes for hair from the chest downwards. Modern technology has made it easier for guys to trim these areas, so invest in an electric razor or any other method that will help you in this regard.

Would you want your date to neglect her nether regions as well? Didn’t think so. Be a pal and return the favor.

Additionally, watch out for any stay hairs coming out of your ears or nostrils. Clippers and tweezers don’t cost much, so pick one and get to work.

Your finger and toenails need to be short and free of any grime underneath. If you have the budget for it, go to a men’s salon because they often include a foot scrubbing service along with the package. Otherwise, a pair of clippers isn’t going to break the bank.

Crooked or yellowish teeth need to be treated as well. Check with a specialist on which option will work for your budget. There are plenty of options out there, such as kits you can use at home, or setting an appointment with a qualified dentist.

Trust me, a polished smile is eye candy to women and they’ll definitely NOTICE it. So make the effort to do something about this matter.

Clothes are a bit of a tricky subject because everyone has different ideas about fashion. On a basic level however, your appearance must tell women that you took the time to look good by choosing threads that work best on your frame.

(Again, NOT about physical perfection…)

Generally, clothes with holes and torn seams are a no-no. Shirts and pants that are old and worn out give the impression that you’re immature and don’t care about looking nice for the ladies.

When it comes to picking out stuff that’ll look good on you, ask your friends and sales staff to help you make a decision. Sometimes it takes another pair of eyes to REALLY figure out the exact kind of clothes that suit your specific body type.

While your socks, shoes, belts, and wallet need to look crisp and neat (no scuffs or other battle damage please), they don’t exactly have to cost you a pretty penny outright.

Plenty of quality stuff is on sale in most shopping malls, so start looking there. There’s always a good bargain to be found if you take the time to look!

Lastly, don’t overstuff your pocket. Try not to put anything in there except for your wallet, cellphone and car keys. The less bulkier your pockets are, the sharper you look.

And that about does it. Remember, setting aside enough time for these things will benefit you greatly because it will manifest in how you look.

Women will see AND appreciate the effort you’ve gone through. If we’re defined by what we do repeatedly, then imagine what a habit of good style and grooming can do for you.

They don’t even have to say it – you’ll find that they’ll naturally be more open to chatting with you and you’ll have an easier time approaching them.

Furthermore, knowing that you’re at your best will greatly BOOST your self-confidence.

I mean, wouldn’t you feel more RELAXED and LESS ANXIOUS because you’re aware of how well-put together you are?

In case anyone hasn’t told you, it’s this exact kind of attitude that makes you more eye-catching to women.

Neglecting your looks will make you tense and even apologetic for the very space you’re occupying. That’s not a very attractive vibe to give off, now is it?

If you really want to seal the deal however, might I recommend an excellent book to bring out your seduction skills and self-confidence to the fullest:

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This empowering guide is a must-have for any guy who wants to be THE MAN when it comes to dating. The cool thing about it is that it’ll also improve the other areas in your life.

After all, having a confident personality will help you succeed in ALL of your pursuits, whether it’s your career or a relationship.

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If you are serious about changing your love life success, the first step on your journey of seduction self discovery needs to be with Meet Your Sweet’s “Fireworks With Females,” your first stop for gal-getting strategies that really deliver.

If you want quality women, and want more than just scripted lines and one night stands, if you want the confidence and winning attitude to take your skills and success to the next level, let Slade Shaw and the team challenge your beliefs about what women really want and how to be the guy that gets her attention, and show you the way to become a seduction success story.

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10 Ways To Rekindle The Magic In Your Relationship

  • Posted on July 26, 2009 at 11:52 pm

Are you frustrated that your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had?

You’re not alone. Living with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and, as a result, can also cause the loss of the spark that made your relationship so special in the first place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to reignite that magic:

1. Send them a unique gift at work – Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner’s workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. Become kids again – If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.

3. Fun with water – On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.

4. A massage with a twist – Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)

5. Bring back childhood memories – Contact your partner’s family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted. You can do this for your man too.

6. Stare at the clouds – Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.

7. Go for a walk on the beach – Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.

8. Organize a backyard picnic on a warm summer’s night –

Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

9. Show you’re grateful for your partner –

Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: “Thank you for coming into my life.”

10. Spice up your lovemaking – Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.

Many people underestimate the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.


Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit: 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets

101 Romantic Ideas

  • Posted on April 24, 2009 at 1:25 am

We have obtained permission to give you a copy of one of Michael Webb’s many relationship advice books.

This one has something in it for everyone. It contains 101 brilliant ideas for adding romance to your relationship. These ideas will keep your relationship fresh and help your loved one know how much you value them.

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Here are two of the ideas…

Buy a packet of glow in the dark stars and stick the stars on the roof above your bed to spell out a message such as “I Love You” When the lights go down, your message will be revealed!

Want another? When you are in a romantic spot, ask your partner if she would like to dance. Place one earpiece in her ear and one in your own and enjoy your private dance floor.

This technique is particularly effective if the romantic spot you have chosen is somewhere where people would not normally dance, for example, the top of the Empire State building at sunset or on top of a mountain during a camping trip.

These are just TWO romantic ideas you can start using right away. Inside you’ll discover 99 MORE WAYS to express the love for your partner in creative and unique ways.

You’ll also learn…

  • A unique “twist” to buying flowers (idea #3)
  • A creative way to cheer your partner up at work (idea #10)
  • 7 ’seldom used’ words that really touch the heart (idea #14)
  • And many many more…

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Long Distance Relationship – Advice on Dos and Don’ts

  • Posted on March 17, 2009 at 5:25 am

Throughout our experience working with long distance relationship couples, we had discovered that there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the advices that we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.

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Do’s

1) Establish an effective communication channel
The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but apart from the telephone services, there are some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.

2) Plan to meet each other
There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other again at an interval of time throughout the period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating the lonely feeling in your LDR.

3) Build hobby that you can both share
By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because you do not need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.

4) Surprise your partner
Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.

5) Capture and share that interesting moment
Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.

Don’ts

1) Settle for a temporary replacement
One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally but this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.

2) Take the relationship lightly
The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated fairly.

3) Wait and see attitude
Most of the failures in distance relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.

4) Suspicion
There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.

5) Succumb to negative comment on LDR
Couples in distance relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own distance relationship due to the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comments I received.


Alex Chew is an avid believer of Long Distance Relationship. He has been actively involved in helping distance couples on their journey through his research works and books. He is also the webmaster of Perfect-Relationship.com and the author of Manage Your Way to A Perfect Distance Relationship e-book

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5 First Date Mistakes Men Make That End In Heartbreak

  • Posted on March 15, 2009 at 11:47 pm

Let’s face it – you never get a second chance to make a first impression!

That’s why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things that men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman again, and the worst part is they think they’re doing it right!

Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your first date:

Mistake #1: Buying gifts - Bringing chocolate or flowers on a first date isn’t the best idea – especially if you’ve just met the woman! She’s there to get to know YOU. Women are always asking themselves “what does THAT mean?” And in this case it’s, “He bought me flowers because he likes me, but he doesn’t even know anything about me yet! A little suspicious.

Mistake #2: Being Mr. Serious – When in the presence of a potential date, men often become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play around like they do with their friends and they generally take things a little too seriously. Why do men change their behavior around women, often without even realizing they’re doing it? Because they fear losing their only chance with the girl of their dreams, they try and play the safe side, which results in a “Mr. Serious.”

Mistake #3: Conducting an Interview – When men become “Mr. Serious” they often fall into “job interview conversation mode.” Make sure you reserve questions like, “So where do you work?” or “How many brothers and sisters do you have?” for the future, after you’ve already had a lot of fun and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid anything too deep for a long period of time. On a first date, it can make things a little depressing. Talk like you’ve known each other for years (as if you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on fun.

Mistake #4: Being too needy and direct – Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask, “so do you like me?” or constantly change his opinion to seek her approval and make her like him. Big mistake. Ironically, it’s leaning back, staying cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting, mysterious and comfortable with yourself that actually gets a woman’s attention and keeps her interested.

Mistake #5: Going to boring places – If your date finds the night boring, you’re finished. When it comes to having fun on first dates, nothing is more important than what you do. And while dinners and movies are nice, it’s really hard to leave a great impression in these settings. Why? Because they set a very “proper tone” that’s hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless you’re a super funny, intelligent and interesting guy, dinner and movie dates just aren’t the best place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places like mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.

So in essence, while there are many factors to having a successful date, a great date idea really helps you do many of them naturally! Remember, where you take a woman on a first date can be the difference between a great night and a dating disaster! Choose wisely!


Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300 Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways to help leave a great first impression without breaking the bank! To learn more, visit the creative date ideas site