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Does My Ex Want To Get Back With Me? (How To Tell…)

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:17 pm

If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you, then it’s okay to be a little hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun. Are you asking yourself “does my ex want to get back with me”?

What Husbands Can't Resist

These are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in getting you back. But even if you want to get back with your ex, you should not simply jump into things. The best way to play things is to play hard to get (in moderation), which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again. In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, then the odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place.

Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what, because of how many memories were shared together during this period of time. But there are other emotions that come into play including past regrets. If you are wondering “does my ex want to get back with me” the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.

Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong. This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.

This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering “does my ex want to get back with me?”, but the truth is, it’s better to get a feel for the situation before you act. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.

Rooting For You,
T.W. Jackson
Author of “The Magic Of Making Up”

 

Why Your Husband Needs Sex

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:13 pm

It is well known that women use several thousand more words a day than men do. Men tend to bottle up their emotions and keep their feelings inside. Much of their communication comes with being sexually physical with their mates. If women were able to get inside their husbands’ heads, they would know that, although sex is very important to men physically, it is also important to them for other reasons as well. It is their main way of bonding with the person they love, both physically and emotionally.

What Husbands Can't Resist

Men definitely have certain physical needs just by nature of the way they are put together; however on an emotional level, men will tell you that sex is important to them for the same reasons that it is important to a woman. It creates a bond, both emotionally and physically, between two people who care about each other.
When a man truly loves a woman and they have a strong sexual bond, a man will become emotionally dependant upon her. That bond means more to your man than you know.

Women who develop that bond with their husbands will find they have happier more fulfilling marriages than they could have ever dreamed possible. Your husband is less likely to stray and he will become so emotionally connected to you that he will do everything and anything in his power to keep you happy.

If you’d like to know more about what motivates your husband, you can find out simply by visiting What Husbands Can’t Resist. You’ll be glad you did and your husband will thank you in so many ways!

Find out for yourself What Husbands Can’t Resist.

This article is from Bob Grant, L.P.C., the author of What Husbands Can’t Resist which you can review here.

Saving Marriages With Unconditional Love

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:08 pm

In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.

A number of people in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, diamond jewellery or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these people, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain.

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What Husbands Can't Resist

When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love.

So what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.

So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.

But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.

Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.

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What the Perfect Romantic Getaway Looks Like

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:03 pm

The perfect romantic getaway might look a little different to everyone. However, there are some traits common to almost any great romantic location. Such as…

honeymoon cruise

First, wherever you go should be private. Now you might be thinking to yourself, “I like adventure, action and lots of people.” That is fine. Whether you decide to go where the crowds are or somewhere where there are more trees than people, some degree of privacy is a must. Remember it’s a romantic getaway, primarily focused on you and that special person… not you and the world.

Here is another tip. Whether you choose a fine resort, luxury hotel, or secluded country lodge, the location you choose should be comfortable. It may seem obvious, but this is one getaway location trait you cannot live without. From in-room fireplaces and Jacuzzi tubs to comfortable beds, comfort is king. Even if you decide to venture out into the great outdoors, having comfortable accommodations to return to after a long, tiresome day can make or break the romance factor.

So you have found a private and comfortable hotel, resort, or lodge. Now what? Well, you are almost there. What will you and that special person do when you are not in your room? Wherever you end up should be close to “adventure”. There is nothing like an adventurous outing to create enjoyable memories that will last a lifetime. If you really want to exceed expectations, then you will need to do more than just book a basic room at a typical hotel. You will need much more! What if you found a secluded luxury lodge where you could have your own in-room Jacuzzi tub and fire place in a romantic dining setting by night? And by day… made-to-order breakfast, five-star dinning, and several enjoyable outdoor activities within driving or even walking distance? There are a small handful of locations out there with all of these amenities.

In fact, one of the best Bozeman hotels / Montana fly fishing lodges I’ve ever stayed at is the Gallatin River Lodge. I looked all over the area for another place like this and, for the price, there is really nothing that compares.

Choose your romantic getaway wisely. If you do while getting all the best accommodations without “breaking the bank”, then you will enjoy yourself, forge long-lasting memories, and be a true hero with that special someone.

Matt J. D. writes helpful articles on how to enjoy a great romantic vacation together.

Our Dream Wedding for just $2,000

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 10:56 pm

We fell deeply in love with one another in the winter of 2002 / 2003. We soon realized that we had found our lifetime soul mate and could not bear the thought of having to live the rest of our life apart.

On April 12, 2003, Tim went to his knees in the commons area of a large indoor mall and asked for Lisa’s hand in marriage. With tears of joy, she happily accepted Tim’s proposal (and of course the ring).

Tim had just graduated from the university and had very little in the way of cash.

Lisa was in the early stages of her bachelor’s program at the university and also did not have much in savings.

Both of our parents were getting by okay but could not afford to pay for a wedding.

Although eloping or visiting the justice of the peace crossed our minds, we knew that doing so would have been a big disappointment to our families and that we might someday regret not having a wedding ceremony with all the trappings.

Wedding Planning on a Budget

Planning Our Wedding

We were anxious to get married. We could totally sympathize with Harry in the movie “When Harry Met Sally” who said: “Once you figure out who you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible!”

We set a date for our wedding as Saturday, September 20, 2003.

During that summer, Lisa did not take a job. Instead of outright making us a couple thousand dollars at some low wage summer job; she spent her time saving us thousands upon thousands of dollars through her creative and organizing skills in planning our wedding and acquiring garage sale furniture and other items for our apartment.

All told – we are talking about every aspect of the wedding from the engagement ring to the honeymoon – we personally paid less than $2,000 and anyone else contributing to the wedding (such as tuxes and bridesmaid dresses) paid much less than that.

The Wedding

Thanks to our careful planning (to which most of the credit goes to Lisa), our wedding turned out to be a masterpiece! It turned out just as we had dreamed – if not better – and many of our guests gave raving compliments – Tim’s great aunt even wrote his mother a letter the following week saying that it was the most beautiful wedding she had ever attended (and she has been to a lot of weddings in her lifetime!).

We had the church decorated with flowers matching the bouquets. There were three bridesmaids and a maid of honor dressed in beautiful matching periwinkle dresses. Tim, his best man, and his three groomsmen looked stunning in their handsome tuxedos complete with periwinkle vests and bow ties. The father of the groom, the father of the bride, and the classical pianist also all wore tuxedos.

Lisa, of course, was the main attraction in her incredibly elegant wedding gown and veil. She received many compliments from people saying they had never seen such a beautiful bride’s gown before.

We had a pianist playing selected music before and during the ceremony. Our groomsmen doubled as ushers to greet and seat each of the approximately 150 distinguished guests in attendance.

We had a professional videographer and photographer to record our special day.

Our lovely mothers lit the family candles and later, during a tender moment of the wedding ceremony, we joined the family candles at the unity candle.

Our minister gave an eloquent talk on the meaning of our union in marriage.

We added a special touch to our wedding by singing a duet with one another. We have been told that there was hardly a dry eye in the church during our sweet performance of “I Will Be Here” by Steven Curtis Chapman.

After we had kissed and the minister had prayed the benediction, we received each guest as they made the procession to the banqueting area.

The banquet was incredible! Our caterers presented us with a feast of deli meats and cheeses, caviar, shrimp, desserts, and other delicacies. The maid of honor and the best man gave generous toasts and everyone enjoyed themselves while celebrating Mr. and Mrs. Spooner’s union in marriage over a delicious meal.

We made the traditional first cut into the wedding cake (with sparkling crystal love birds as the cake topper) and fed one another cake and then headed for the dance floor where we and our guests enjoyed dancing to our selected love songs.

Before long, we were being sent off to our honeymoon with streamers trailing behind our get-a-way car.

Now It’s Your Turn!

That is our story! To this day, when we think of our wedding day, great big smiles of pleasure fill our faces. We had the wedding of our dreams and we did not break the bank to do it! Would you like to know how we had the wedding of our dreams for less than $2,000?

Tim and Lisa Spooner  are the authors of the downloadable book “Wedding Planning on a Budget” 

5 Marriage Proposal Mistakes That Leave Women Feeling Disappointed

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 10:48 pm

Did you know that a man once hospitalized his girlfriend trying to propose to her?

It’s true! He slipped the engagement ring into her shot glass and as they toasted to his speech, she swallowed it! Now, she survived, but they did need a trip to the emergency room.

In fact, it’s ‘embarrassing yet funny’ proposals like these that remind me of the 5 ways that guys totally DESTROY this precious moment for women by making horrendous mistakes. Please don’t make these mistakes.

1. Creating a Public Spectacle

Whether it’s a party, family get-together or Yankee game, realize that you should never propose to your beloved if she wouldn’t feel comfortable with a public proposal. Not only may it embarrass her, but she may feel pressured to say “Yes,” only to tell you the truth later. Bottom line, think about what sort of person your lady is: Is she shy, cautious or a little reserved? Then maybe a private proposal is the better way to go.

2. Overdoing the proposal

Some men’s idea of an amazing proposal is slapping together all the “usual” romantic things into one big event and calling it a “marriage proposal.” Sadly, this couldn’t be further from the truth. For example: A man serves the candlelit dinner, presents her flowers, chocolates, a teddy bear and then proposes to her.

Yuck. I’m sorry, but if you believe your lady deserves the most magnificent experience of her life, then understand that normal “everyday romance” is only good for. everyday romance! – not a proposal. She’ll never admit it, but she’ll most likely be disappointed.

3. Being unprepared

You usually only get one shot at your proposal so you MUST get it right! No pressure :D . Always rehearse through the things that could go wrong, create backup plans and please make sure your proposal idea is safe! If you’re creating a more elaborate proposal, you’ll need extra caution. Physically rehearse through the situations, discover what could go wrong and work out solutions around them. Get your friends together and brainstorm the sticky situations that could come up on the day. Of course, life is unpredictable and things may change but be prepared the best you can.

4. Spending too much money

Hang on! You’re probably wondering, “How is spending TOO MUCH money on a proposal a problem?” Well it all depends. The problem with money is that it often becomes a substitute for creativity. As a result, you get a “nice” memorable proposal but nothing that’s “jaw-dropping!”

5. Using a “done to death” proposal idea

Now here’s the biggest mistake of them all. Yes, coming up with creative and original ideas to propose is tough, but it’s a must if you want your moment to be remembered and talked about for years to come!

Your proposal needs to be personalized to your girlfriend. What are her favorite hobbies, music and interests? These are the starting points to an incredible proposal that everyone will talk about for years.

While the Eiffel tower, hot air balloons and getting the waiter to bring out the ring on a platter are “okay” ideas, they’re not creative and original enough for the most important and memorable moment of both your lives.

Michael Webb is the author of The Romantic’s Guide To Popping The Question, a book filled with 101 Creative and Unique Marriage Proposals, hand-picked as award-winning stories from a total of 7,329 entries in his worldwide competition. To learn more, visit the marriage proposal ideas website

Dating Advice for Women

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 8:03 pm

There is a big difference when it comes to men and women and their dating styles. In general, men are more willing than women to put themselves on the line to make the first move. Conversely, women are willing to risk never seeing someone again by not making a move. Men are generally more open to sacrificing themselves on the first date than women are. But, once they are in a relationship, the roles change. Women are then the ones who are willing to put more on the line.

Risk Nothing – Wait Forever

If you are a woman who has become frustrated with the dating scene, it may be because you are unwilling to risk yourself and show your interest. Why wait for him to initiate a conversation? Many women want the man to do the asking out, but he won’t know you are interested unless you give him the right signals or involve him in conversation. Men like to have a good idea that they will be successful if they do ask a woman out, and you can give him that idea by walking over to him and starting a conversation.

Of course, if you do opt to make contact first, you have to be prepared to be rejected. Not all men you speak with will ask for your phone number, or ask you out. But nobody bats a thousand, and it’s inevitable that a little bit of rejection will come into all of our lives at some point. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be all bad. You can use the rejections you get to hone your intuition. Maybe the next time you have an encounter with a man, you will be better able to judge how he feels about you in return.

Still not sure about taking a risk and letting a man know you are interested? Perhaps you want to understand how it is that men can so easily make the first move and open themselves up on the first date. Check out the book Men Made Easy by Kara Oh to gain a deeper understanding into men, romance and love. This book contains life-changing and easy-to-use tips and secrets that will help you develop the confidence and ability to take a chance on love.

Kara Oh

Kara Oh is the best-selling author of numerous relationship books including Men Made Easy, Marriage Made Easy, and Women Made Easy.

Kara has been interviewed on hundreds of radio and TV shows across the country in cities like New York, Atlanta, Las Vegas, Chicago, and Philadelphia, and signed books in bookstores in every major (and a few not so major) city. She has featured in magazines like Cosmopolitan and Women’s World. She is an enlightening and entertaining public speaker and has traveled to all the major US cities sharing her insights about what makes men tick and how to create amazing relationships.