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The Newlyweds’ Guide to a Happy Marriage

  • Posted on March 25, 2009 at 10:27 pm

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Keep Your Wife Satisfied – Do You Know How?

  • Posted on March 19, 2009 at 9:56 pm

It’s a question that has been asked by men for ages. How can a husband keep his wife content and happy with him for an entire lifetime? I’ve asked myself this question, too. Too bad there wasn’t a formula that we all could apply and magically our wives would be satisfied for the remainder of our relationship, this would make life much easier. So what does it take, a nice dinner, some new clothes, maybe a new ring? These are your conventional solutions that may have worked in the past but judging by today’s divorce rates they don’t seem to be doing the trick. We’ve got to find a new answer to the question of how to keep your wife happy.

The answer isn’t as difficult or as expensive as it seems to be. What your wife wants more than any material possession is a listening ear and an understanding shoulder to cry on, someone who she has no worry about remaining faithful. She wants to be able to share her innermost feelings without the fear of being put down and she wants you to be able to do the same. What sort of message does it send out if a woman shares her inner thoughts but then her husband refuses to share his? It can easily make someone feel that it’s inappropriate to share these sorts of things because it makes you look vulnerable and person will quickly refrain from doing so.

If both of you agree that it’s okay to discuss how your feeling then you’ll be much more apt to do so. Michael Webb has written a book called 1000 Questions for Couples which covers issues very similar to this and also plenty more. It may be just what you need to ensure that you are doing everything you can to keep wife happy.

Suzie Pages is the director of popular blog SaveRelationshipNow.Com. She is an expert on relationships and her blog contains stacks of information on things like dealing with relationship issues and much more. Get free tips from her site today!

Long Distance Relationship – Advice on Dos and Don’ts

  • Posted on March 17, 2009 at 5:25 am

Throughout our experience working with long distance relationship couples, we had discovered that there are lots of thing that we must do and as well as refrain from doing in order to survive the relationship. Below are some of the advices that we have compiled over the years. Although they may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that makes the most impact in writing the outcome of your distance relationship. Consider some of the below do and don’t list and together with your desire, I am pretty sure you are able to conquer your distance relationship with ease and fun.

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Do’s

1) Establish an effective communication channel
The very first thing that you must do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Most people will think that telephone is the most convenient mode of communication but apart from the telephone services, there are some other alternative you can use. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them to enhance your communication experience.

2) Plan to meet each other
There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other again at an interval of time throughout the period of your long distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating the lonely feeling in your LDR.

3) Build hobby that you can both share
By building and keeping a hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting judging from its speed and reach ability but never leave out conventional hobby as well because you do not need to have your partner’s physical present to share a hobby.

4) Surprise your partner
Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your distance relationship regardless how far your partner may be.

5) Capture and share that interesting moment
Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance.

Don’ts

1) Settle for a temporary replacement
One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make. Although it may not be done intentionally but this type of mistake will be very costly to your long distance relationship.

2) Take the relationship lightly
The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated fairly.

3) Wait and see attitude
Most of the failures in distance relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In a LDR, both partners must be committed and proactive in bringing the relationship to a higher level.

4) Suspicion
There are no rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.

5) Succumb to negative comment on LDR
Couples in distance relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew it because I had successfully conquered my own distance relationship due to the reason that I am not influence by any of the bad comments I received.

Alex Chew is an avid believer of Long Distance Relationship. He has been actively involved in helping distance couples on their journey through his research works and books. He is also the webmaster of Perfect-Relationship.com and the author of Manage Your Way to A Perfect Distance Relationship e-book

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5 First Date Mistakes Men Make That End In Heartbreak

  • Posted on March 15, 2009 at 11:47 pm

Let’s face it – you never get a second chance to make a first impression!

That’s why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things that men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman again, and the worst part is they think they’re doing it right!

Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your first date:

Mistake #1: Buying gifts - Bringing chocolate or flowers on a first date isn’t the best idea – especially if you’ve just met the woman! She’s there to get to know YOU. Women are always asking themselves “what does THAT mean?” And in this case it’s, “He bought me flowers because he likes me, but he doesn’t even know anything about me yet! A little suspicious.

Mistake #2: Being Mr. Serious – When in the presence of a potential date, men often become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play around like they do with their friends and they generally take things a little too seriously. Why do men change their behavior around women, often without even realizing they’re doing it? Because they fear losing their only chance with the girl of their dreams, they try and play the safe side, which results in a “Mr. Serious.”

Mistake #3: Conducting an Interview – When men become “Mr. Serious” they often fall into “job interview conversation mode.” Make sure you reserve questions like, “So where do you work?” or “How many brothers and sisters do you have?” for the future, after you’ve already had a lot of fun and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid anything too deep for a long period of time. On a first date, it can make things a little depressing. Talk like you’ve known each other for years (as if you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on fun.

Mistake #4: Being too needy and direct – Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask, “so do you like me?” or constantly change his opinion to seek her approval and make her like him. Big mistake. Ironically, it’s leaning back, staying cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting, mysterious and comfortable with yourself that actually gets a woman’s attention and keeps her interested.

Mistake #5: Going to boring places – If your date finds the night boring, you’re finished. When it comes to having fun on first dates, nothing is more important than what you do. And while dinners and movies are nice, it’s really hard to leave a great impression in these settings. Why? Because they set a very “proper tone” that’s hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless you’re a super funny, intelligent and interesting guy, dinner and movie dates just aren’t the best place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places like mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.

So in essence, while there are many factors to having a successful date, a great date idea really helps you do many of them naturally! Remember, where you take a woman on a first date can be the difference between a great night and a dating disaster! Choose wisely!

Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300 Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways to help leave a great first impression without breaking the bank! To learn more, visit the creative date ideas site

My Ex Called to See How I Was. How Do I Interpret this and What Do I Do Now?

  • Posted on March 15, 2009 at 3:14 pm


 

What Husbands Can't Resist

T.W. Jackson, the author of the downloadable book “The Magic Of Making Up” responds to one of his readers’ questions.
 

  

  

  

  

  

  

Does My Ex Want To Get Back With Me? (How To Tell…)

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:17 pm

If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you, then it’s okay to be a little hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun. Are you asking yourself “does my ex want to get back with me”?

What Husbands Can't Resist

These are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in getting you back. But even if you want to get back with your ex, you should not simply jump into things. The best way to play things is to play hard to get (in moderation), which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again. In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, then the odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place.

Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what, because of how many memories were shared together during this period of time. But there are other emotions that come into play including past regrets. If you are wondering “does my ex want to get back with me” the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.

Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong. This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.

This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering “does my ex want to get back with me?”, but the truth is, it’s better to get a feel for the situation before you act. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.

Rooting For You,
T.W. Jackson
Author of “The Magic Of Making Up”

 

Why Your Husband Needs Sex

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:13 pm

It is well known that women use several thousand more words a day than men do. Men tend to bottle up their emotions and keep their feelings inside. Much of their communication comes with being sexually physical with their mates. If women were able to get inside their husbands’ heads, they would know that, although sex is very important to men physically, it is also important to them for other reasons as well. It is their main way of bonding with the person they love, both physically and emotionally.

What Husbands Can't Resist

Men definitely have certain physical needs just by nature of the way they are put together; however on an emotional level, men will tell you that sex is important to them for the same reasons that it is important to a woman. It creates a bond, both emotionally and physically, between two people who care about each other.
When a man truly loves a woman and they have a strong sexual bond, a man will become emotionally dependant upon her. That bond means more to your man than you know.

Women who develop that bond with their husbands will find they have happier more fulfilling marriages than they could have ever dreamed possible. Your husband is less likely to stray and he will become so emotionally connected to you that he will do everything and anything in his power to keep you happy.

If you’d like to know more about what motivates your husband, you can find out simply by visiting What Husbands Can’t Resist. You’ll be glad you did and your husband will thank you in so many ways!

Find out for yourself What Husbands Can’t Resist.

This article is from Bob Grant, L.P.C., the author of What Husbands Can’t Resist which you can review here.

Saving Marriages With Unconditional Love

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:08 pm

In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it ideal.

A number of people in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates, old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner chair, diamond jewellery or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these people, these things felt comfortable, and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding and easy to maintain.

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What Husbands Can't Resist

When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don’t know of any others that greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love.

So what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of love that you have for your partner when the romantic, hollywood-style love is gone. Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to “real” love. Real love is love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. You still love them. This is unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner’s faults. You acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know you make mistakes sometimes, but that’s okay. That’s called self-acceptance, and you expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.

So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learnt here. We all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our issues rule our lives.

But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make mistakes. And love will conquer them all.

Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your relationship.

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What the Perfect Romantic Getaway Looks Like

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 11:03 pm

The perfect romantic getaway might look a little different to everyone. However, there are some traits common to almost any great romantic location. Such as…

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First, wherever you go should be private. Now you might be thinking to yourself, “I like adventure, action and lots of people.” That is fine. Whether you decide to go where the crowds are or somewhere where there are more trees than people, some degree of privacy is a must. Remember it’s a romantic getaway, primarily focused on you and that special person… not you and the world.

Here is another tip. Whether you choose a fine resort, luxury hotel, or secluded country lodge, the location you choose should be comfortable. It may seem obvious, but this is one getaway location trait you cannot live without. From in-room fireplaces and Jacuzzi tubs to comfortable beds, comfort is king. Even if you decide to venture out into the great outdoors, having comfortable accommodations to return to after a long, tiresome day can make or break the romance factor.

So you have found a private and comfortable hotel, resort, or lodge. Now what? Well, you are almost there. What will you and that special person do when you are not in your room? Wherever you end up should be close to “adventure”. There is nothing like an adventurous outing to create enjoyable memories that will last a lifetime. If you really want to exceed expectations, then you will need to do more than just book a basic room at a typical hotel. You will need much more! What if you found a secluded luxury lodge where you could have your own in-room Jacuzzi tub and fire place in a romantic dining setting by night? And by day… made-to-order breakfast, five-star dinning, and several enjoyable outdoor activities within driving or even walking distance? There are a small handful of locations out there with all of these amenities.

In fact, one of the best Bozeman hotels / Montana fly fishing lodges I’ve ever stayed at is the Gallatin River Lodge. I looked all over the area for another place like this and, for the price, there is really nothing that compares.

Choose your romantic getaway wisely. If you do while getting all the best accommodations without “breaking the bank”, then you will enjoy yourself, forge long-lasting memories, and be a true hero with that special someone.

Matt J. D. writes helpful articles on how to enjoy a great romantic vacation together.

Our Dream Wedding for just $2,000

  • Posted on March 14, 2009 at 10:56 pm

We fell deeply in love with one another in the winter of 2002 / 2003. We soon realized that we had found our lifetime soul mate and could not bear the thought of having to live the rest of our life apart.

On April 12, 2003, Tim went to his knees in the commons area of a large indoor mall and asked for Lisa’s hand in marriage. With tears of joy, she happily accepted Tim’s proposal (and of course the ring).

Tim had just graduated from the university and had very little in the way of cash.

Lisa was in the early stages of her bachelor’s program at the university and also did not have much in savings.

Both of our parents were getting by okay but could not afford to pay for a wedding.

Although eloping or visiting the justice of the peace crossed our minds, we knew that doing so would have been a big disappointment to our families and that we might someday regret not having a wedding ceremony with all the trappings.

Wedding Planning on a Budget

Planning Our Wedding

We were anxious to get married. We could totally sympathize with Harry in the movie “When Harry Met Sally” who said: “Once you figure out who you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible!”

We set a date for our wedding as Saturday, September 20, 2003.

During that summer, Lisa did not take a job. Instead of outright making us a couple thousand dollars at some low wage summer job; she spent her time saving us thousands upon thousands of dollars through her creative and organizing skills in planning our wedding and acquiring garage sale furniture and other items for our apartment.

All told – we are talking about every aspect of the wedding from the engagement ring to the honeymoon – we personally paid less than $2,000 and anyone else contributing to the wedding (such as tuxes and bridesmaid dresses) paid much less than that.

The Wedding

Thanks to our careful planning (to which most of the credit goes to Lisa), our wedding turned out to be a masterpiece! It turned out just as we had dreamed – if not better – and many of our guests gave raving compliments – Tim’s great aunt even wrote his mother a letter the following week saying that it was the most beautiful wedding she had ever attended (and she has been to a lot of weddings in her lifetime!).

We had the church decorated with flowers matching the bouquets. There were three bridesmaids and a maid of honor dressed in beautiful matching periwinkle dresses. Tim, his best man, and his three groomsmen looked stunning in their handsome tuxedos complete with periwinkle vests and bow ties. The father of the groom, the father of the bride, and the classical pianist also all wore tuxedos.

Lisa, of course, was the main attraction in her incredibly elegant wedding gown and veil. She received many compliments from people saying they had never seen such a beautiful bride’s gown before.

We had a pianist playing selected music before and during the ceremony. Our groomsmen doubled as ushers to greet and seat each of the approximately 150 distinguished guests in attendance.

We had a professional videographer and photographer to record our special day.

Our lovely mothers lit the family candles and later, during a tender moment of the wedding ceremony, we joined the family candles at the unity candle.

Our minister gave an eloquent talk on the meaning of our union in marriage.

We added a special touch to our wedding by singing a duet with one another. We have been told that there was hardly a dry eye in the church during our sweet performance of “I Will Be Here” by Steven Curtis Chapman.

After we had kissed and the minister had prayed the benediction, we received each guest as they made the procession to the banqueting area.

The banquet was incredible! Our caterers presented us with a feast of deli meats and cheeses, caviar, shrimp, desserts, and other delicacies. The maid of honor and the best man gave generous toasts and everyone enjoyed themselves while celebrating Mr. and Mrs. Spooner’s union in marriage over a delicious meal.

We made the traditional first cut into the wedding cake (with sparkling crystal love birds as the cake topper) and fed one another cake and then headed for the dance floor where we and our guests enjoyed dancing to our selected love songs.

Before long, we were being sent off to our honeymoon with streamers trailing behind our get-a-way car.

Now It’s Your Turn!

That is our story! To this day, when we think of our wedding day, great big smiles of pleasure fill our faces. We had the wedding of our dreams and we did not break the bank to do it! Would you like to know how we had the wedding of our dreams for less than $2,000?

Tim and Lisa Spooner  are the authors of the downloadable book “Wedding Planning on a Budget”